Niceties and Personal Dynamics

[dametheadee]

So if you want to know if a particular person or persons are talking about you or something you did, how do you handle it?  Do you try to collect information, or do you go to the person and talk to them?

Do you stand back and watch when people that need to be able to work together for the common good are having issues?  Do you stand back and watch for the possible train wreck when they aren't talking to each other?

And what kind of advice can you really give?  Do you remind them of how their actions or lack of actions go far beyond just themselves?   Do you remind them of the grievance procedure?  How far do you go?

Does it matter how much you are committed to the common good?  Should that change what you say or do?

These questions do not require an answer.  I just wish I had one.  When did people forget the basics of niceties and personal dynamics?  When did they forget how to talk to each other?  Did they forget we all theoretically work for the common good? 

All of these people are highly principled in their own way.  I just can't figure out how they seem to be coming from such a place where they seem to believe the worst out of each other.

I know... cryptic.  But it is the best I can muster right now.

Comments

[theiadora.livejournal.com]

I understand. I've wondered what ever happened to giving the people the benefit of the doubt? Or chalking it up to having a bad day? And just because they don't act they way you would have, why then are they Wrong, versus just Not you? Agreeing to disagree is a valuable aspect in everyones lives. If we were all the same and did things the same way, this world would be Really boring.
I don't like every one in the SCA, and I know not everyone likes me. Be learn to be polite, and move on.